I’m in control; I’ve got this; This is my problem; I will handle this on my own; It’s no body’s business; No one will understand; I can’t ask for help…
In a perfect world we can handle our lives on our own. We can be in control and ready to face what lies ahead, but in reality we can all use an extra hand. Can we ask for it? Can we admit when we need it and can we take it when it is given to us?
Lately, I’ve witnessed others in my life who need the help, but don’t necessarily want to ask for it, even being frustrated that they need it. My feeling is, take it when it is given to you. It may be hard and you may at times feel helpless but that is when you should let those who love you swoop in and take over.
Those three stages I mentioned, I’ve been in and I’m sure it won’t be the last time. I asked for it, I’ve admitted when I needed help and I’ve taken it when it was graciously given to me. Sometimes it was easy, other times extremely hard but knowing that someone out there is waiting an willing to offer you the hand I find very comforting.
In my trial (divorce) that comfort wasn’t always in the form I needed. My friends and family were very helpful but biased, I searched for an outlet where no one knew me nor I them and I couldn’t find it. I needed an escape a safe place to share my feelings. That is when this blog was born.
I wanted to connect with others who were feeling exactly what I was. To share my grief and listen to those going through similar circumstances, all in the hope that we could support each other.
Today I am not only proud but extremely thankful to have shared with, talked with, and cried with those of you who have followed my posts. And I am elated that in less than two weeks I will finally be meeting my girl!
The day I saw her comment I felt so many emotions, I knew I needed to do something, I needed to find her, talk to her, and do what I could to let her know I felt exactly as she did. No one is ever alone, there is someone out there going through what you are and feeling the same. God never meant for any of us to walk this world alone he has gently placed each of us in others lives.
I’m so thankful and blessed for the life he has given me even with the bumps and valleys I had to walk through. I know I am who he meant me to be and I wouldn’t be here without all the people in my life. Without you…I would be nothing. Thank You!
Kimberly
Courageous Butterfly
3/27/16
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I’ve mentioned my faith in a number of posts and there is no doubt in my mind that I am on a path that was designed by God.
“Valentine’s day ugh”, is uttered frequently by singles on February 14th, aside from those who choose to embrace their inner selves which I have been known to do. I even took myself out on a date night. I figured why not, nobody knows me better. I have to say, I set the bar pretty high, and actually feel bad for future prospects who may feel the need to outdo my do!
So what can I do about that? Besides honoring those emotions and letting them move through me, there is one more important thing I can do…create a blank canvas on that memory. I can’t erase it, can’t make it go away but I can try and alter it a little in my mind. So the next time I close my eyes and that vision appears, the card will be blank and at that time I will begin to insert new words, pictures, and phrases. Continuing this until the day comes when I close my eyes and the Valentine is all mine. Filled with things that are important to me and signatures of those close to my heart.
Out of the Chrysalis 