Out of the Chrysalis
At some point in our lives we all endure a time or trial of pain and suffering which is usually brought on by something that was either out of our control or not something that we desired. We have a choice to be defeated by whatever it was we went through or embrace the transformation into becoming a new and improved version of our old self.
Choosing to embrace this transformation is not an easy thing to do. In fact when I first began this blog it was dedicated to patient women who had suffered a divorce. While working on that blog I had to stop, it was proving to be too devastating for me to write about how painful my life was at the time. I found myself becoming a bitter person. It’s now been just over a year since my trial ended and my transformation is just now beginning. I finally see the positive changes that have and are being made because I endured that great loss in my life; I can now begin to transform into the new person I will be.
If we think about the caterpillar’s trial of being in the chrysalis not knowing why he/she is there or how long he/she will suffer before transforming into the beautiful butterfly we can relate that to what it is that we are going through. For me my chrysalis was the 2 year long divorce. I was stuck in there grieving my marriage and holding onto the pain fearing I was not strong enough to handle what was on the outside. The fear of not knowing had me staying in that chrysalis longer than I needed to be there.
We all grieve and get past things on our own time and a lot of times it is important not to rush through the process. However it’s also important to realize when you have been stuck in a stage for too long. We have to keep in mind that the caterpillar goes through a lot of hard work to get out of the cocoon safely. This needs to be the main focus when we are preparing to emerge from the painful life event that we have been going through. We will never forget what happened to us that’s a given so the trick is to find a way to use it positively in our new lives so that when we emerge from the chrysalis we have that trial, that pain, that suffering as a tool in our transformation.
My divorce put me through the ringer and during those 2 years I had to work really hard to keep myself from slipping down the wrong path. Because of what I was going through I was forced to become a stronger person. For the first time in my life I had to find the strength and courage to take care of myself, make decisions for myself and it scared the crap out of me! But just like the caterpillar I didn’t have a choice, at some point I would break out of the chrysalis. So, once it opened I would have to choose to either be a broken butterfly or use the tools I gained and begin my transformation.
Recently when I decided to begin work again on my blog and had read some of the stories that I had posted I realized that I am a very different person. I have finally come out of my chrysalis and have begun my transformation. This realization was something very important to me because I know that I am truly healing, I am moving forward. I will always have that horrible event that happened in my life it will never go away but I have begun using the tools that I gained from that pain for a positive transformation of my life.
If you have been through a difficult time in your life either recently or even along time ago I encourage you to take a moment and check to see if you are stuck in your chrysalis and reply with your story so that you to can begin to emerge transformed like the beautiful butterfly.