Out of the Chrysalis
Mission Statement: To listen, inspire, share, reflect, lift up and pray for the spirits of those who have or are suffering a loss.
At some point in our lives we all endure a time or trial of pain and suffering which is usually brought on by something that was either out of our control or something that we do not desire. We have a choice to be defeated by whatever it was we went through or embrace the transformation into becoming a new and improved version of our old self.
Choosing to embrace this transformation is not an easy thing to do. In fact when I first began this blog it was dedicated to Patient Women who had suffered a divorce. While working on that site I had to stop, as it was proving to be too devastating for me to write about how painful my life was at the time. I found myself becoming a bitter person.
If we think about the caterpillar’s trial of being in the chrysalis not knowing why or how long he/she will suffer before transforming into the beautiful butterfly, we can relate that to what it is that we are going through. My chrysalis was the nearly two year long divorce. I was stuck there grieving my marriage and holding onto the pain fearing I was not strong enough to handle what was on the outside.
We all grieve things on our own time and it is important not to rush through the process. However it’s also important to realize when you have been in a stage for too long. We have to keep in mind that the caterpillar goes through a lot of hard work to get out of the cocoon safely. This needs to be the main focus when we are preparing to emerge from the painful life event that we have been going through. We will never forget what happened to us that’s a given, so the trick is to find a way to use it positively in our new lives so that when we emerge from the chrysalis we have that trial, that pain, that suffering as a tool in our transformation.
My divorce put me through the ringer and during those years I had to work really hard to keep myself from slipping down the wrong path. Because of what I was going through I was forced to become a stronger person. For the first time in my life I had to find the strength and courage to take care of myself, make decisions for myself and it scared the daylights out of me! But just like the caterpillar I didn’t have a choice. At some point I would break out of the chrysalis, and once it opened I would use the tools I gained and begin my transformation.
Recently when I decided to begin work again on my blog and had read some of the stories that I had posted, I realized that I am a very different person. I have emerged from my chrysalis and have begun my transformation. This realization was something very important to me because I know that I am truly healing and moving forward. I will always have that horrible event that happened in my life, it will never go away, but I have begun using the tools that I gained from that pain for a positive transformation in my life.
If you have been through a difficult time either recently or even along time ago, I encourage you to take a moment and read through the posts, comments and suggestions, so that you can begin to emerge transformed and will someday be ready to fly.