In nature we know that the calm before the storm is when the trees become still, the birds are quiet and the colors in the sky become ominous. I have to say that the animals are very lucky that they know how to see that calm and can then prepare for the storm. The bad news for us humans is that we don’t notice that calm until we are in the midst of our storm.
Not to long ago I wrote a post about how important it is to try to see the beauty that is hidden within your storm and the fact that once you make it through you will be better for it; you will grow stronger through that trial. So how can we sense that we are in a calm before the storm? Some people may say “my life is going too well something bad is going to happen”. Or the famous “it’s too good to be true, so something bad must come of it”. The truth is we don’t see that we were in the calm until the storm happens. Just tonight I had a close friend say “I hope this storm passes quick I have been pretty stress free for a few weeks”. We don’t have a doppler system for the storms of life so how do we embrace our calm if we are seeing it only when the storm hits?
I’m sure you can think back to a really good day or a time when you thought to yourself “wow things are going really well for me”. We need to pay attention to those moments and take inventory on how we are feeling. Pay attention to your outlook on life, energy level and overall happiness. Then, be in tune to the impact those feelings are having on you in that moment. Maybe they are causing you to be successful in a project you are working on or maybe they just helped you brighten someone’s day. No matter how large or small the success is make sure you note it! Place these feelings and moments of happiness and success in your emergency storm bag because they will become your tools for survival.
You’ve taken inventory on your best day you have those feelings and moments in your mind and all of a sudden your sky opens and your storm hits. Stress is being piled on you from every angle. Be it work, a relationship, kids or anything that can cause you stress, it’s all hitting you at once. What do you do? You reach out for your tools. You remember how you felt when things were going well in your life and you focus on those feelings and ask yourself “what do I need to do in order to feel like that again?” If you take just a moment to look back you will quickly realize you would much rather have the feelings of happiness and success rather than the feelings the stress is causing you to have. Now I know you can’t just close your eyes and make your problems disappear. It would be awesome but it’s not going to happen. You will still have to deal with whatever the issue is but use your tools while you are dealing with it. Remind yourself that you are strong enough to find a solution to your problem and release the stress. Encourage yourself to work through whatever it is and get yourself back to the feelings you had when you were in your calm. We can’t know how long our storm will last but we can use our tools to help bring us out and back to our calm.
The last couple of years have been a pretty big storm but I did have some good days thrown in there. I will now look back on those days and pull the tools out of my emergency bag whenever a storm hits.
Would anyone like to offer any suggestions to my blog reader’s on how you were successful in working through a stressful time, we could all use helpful tips! (respond in the comments)