Temporarily Crippled

In a sense for the moment I’m temporarily crippled with my low back being out of whack.   I am limited to what I can do without pain, however part of my treatment plan is to continue with as much activity as I can tolerate.  I am finding it very unpleasant to move around and do my daily activities  and in doing so it has reminded me of how hard it was for me to deal with day-to-day life when I was going through my divorce.    Can our hearts be temporarily crippled as well as our bodies?

After suffering loss of a relationship, marriage or the person we love it is very hard to be open to letting ourselves ever feel that way again.  I belive that just like our bodies, our hearts can also become temporarily crippled. Just like with my back I have good days and bad days when it comes to matter’s of the heart.   I like to think that I am making progress.  I am learning how to develop new relationships and I am enjoying maintaining the treatment plan that will eventually lead to a fully mended heart.  It was not easy to let someone into that fragile space but I know that it is important to allow activity to continue if I am going to continue to heal.

I”m not alone when I say that my number one fear is becoming completely healed only to be knocked down again.  It’s no different with my back.  I need to do my daily activities in order for the spasms to subside but doing the activities sometimes aggravate the spasms.  This situation forces me to make a choice.  If I want to begin to feel better I have to follow this treatment plan and hope that I have more good days than bad.  It’s the same for our hearts.  We need to choose to allow the healing to begin.  Yes we will still have days of sadness or fear but  getting through those days is where the healing is taking place.

Our hearts are the center of our happiness and in order to be truly happy in all that we do, not just our relationships but in our daily lives as well,  healing needs to begin.  If you are having difficulty with matter’s of the heart since your struggle, take some time to reflect on what you think your treatment plan should be.  It could be as simple as keeping a journal, quiet time for yourself, praying, or even talking with someone.

It’s important to know that where you are now is temporary and when you are willing, ready, and able you will begin to heal and you will find happiness in all aspects of your life.   Love is a gift, and when we can accept it and let it back into our lives we are truly Blessed.

Do you have a treatment plan that has  worked for you in matter’s of the heart?  Please share in the comments section.


Courageous Butterfly



Be The CUP

Is your CUP 1/2 full or 1/2 empty?

We have all uttered that phrase on one or more occasion and I’m sure you have also been asked to answer it.  The rule is that if someone says their cup is half full they are a positive person and if someone says their cup is half empty they are a negative person.  Let’s think about the person who says ” I Am The Cup”.

I will be totally honest and tell you that during my time of trial I was the half empty girl.  I was constantly focused on the negative aspects of what I was going through never realizing that I am the cup and therefore I can control its contents.  In fact, I didn’t realize that until today.  The last few years have been full of negativity which I assumed was brought on by the situation when in fact I could have decided to handle that trial with a totally different outlook.

One of the reasons I developed this blog is because I don’t want others to be where I was when I went through my struggle.  I want to be able to reach out to others and tell them what I didn’t see until now.  I think being able to be in control of your feelings during your struggle and being the one to choose if your glass is half empty, half full or if in fact you can become the glass is HUGE!  I was so focused on the “bad” because I could not find good in my situation.  Had I taken a moment to realize that even though what I was going through was not what I wanted or chose, it was happening.  It was a fact of life I could not stop and I was the only one with the power to make the best of it.  

We all have the power to be the CUP.  We control the contents and we have the power to decide how we will react, how we will feel and how we will let it affect our lives.  When I realized this today I felt empowered!  I feel like I can make real changes in my life that will be beneficial to me and others around me.  I know things turned out the way they did for a reason, it was God’s plan, however I also know that had I used this knowledge two years ago my outlook on my new life would have been 100% better.  I would have been more confident in knowing that I made my choices because I was the one in control of what was in my CUP.

Take the time to reflect and ask yourself  “can you be the CUP”?  Once you decide you are the CUP, only you hold its contents.  Do not let what is going on in your life control what is in your cup.  Instead, control your reaction to what it is you are dealing with.


Courageous Butterfly