We all know how to take things for granted in life, some better than other’s and I”ll admit that I have done it as well. Recently I have noticed that I am missing some of the little things of my marriage. A morning smile, sharing a cup of coffee, or just a simple hug before beginning my day. I was really in a funk wishing I had someone to share all those things with, but upon about five minutes of reflecting on my past I can honestly say that I don’t think I ever had many of the little things while in my marriage.
So if I didn’t have them then, why am I missing them so much now? How do I know what it is I’m missing? A wonderful roommate was graciously dropped into my home and in spending time with her day in and day out is when I noticed that I really enjoyed sharing those little things with another person. I like having conversation in the morning over a cup of coffee. Having an actual conversation with someone while preparing dinner who is over the age of 14 is fantastic!
It’s given me a chance to really think about some of the other little things I may want to share with someone down the road, and it’s showed me how important they are. Just because they are called “the little things” does not mean that they should not carry as much importance as some of the “bigger things”.
When I look back now I wish we would have shared more of those tiny moments because they would have been more meaningful than the times that we thought were more important.
Going back is not an option so for me; all I can do is take note of how I’m feeling about those little things, and make sure I am aware of just how important they are to me. This way I am assured of making them meaningful in any future relationships. My little things will actually be the biggest part of any new relationship. I will make sure that they are known and that whoever I am with is ready and willing to share them with me. 
I”m making my list and I”m checking it three times, twice is not enough. I am keeping track of when I notice that little something missing from my life and I will move it to the top of the list. This way nothing get’s forgotten, nothing will be overlooked, and I will have all that to look forward to when getting to know that special person.
Is any one else out there keeping a list of those little but important things that are missing from your life? Please respond in the comments.
Kimberly
Courageous Butterfly
3/16/14
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How many times have we tried to go through a door the wrong way? And I’m speaking literally here. When it happens we look around to make sure that no one has seen it happen. Your walking with a purpose headed into your favorite store, your list in hand you approach the door and push, push, push. Why isn’t the door opening? It is then that directly in your line of vision, you see the rather large sign that says PULL. I’m three years post divorce and I feel like I have been living life pushing on doors that should have been pulled and pulling on doors that should have been pushed and I am getting nowhere.
It was a simple task…just dropping off a backpack….never did I imagine a breakdown almost three years post divorce. I thought that I had closed the door on my marriage and the divorce, and I was “over it”. Guess not. There I sat in my car looking at what used to be my house, my yard, it wasn’t the first time I had been through this; yet it seemed that way. My pulse started to race as I looked at the scenery. I could picture myself looking out of the windows that I was now looking into.
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