Today summer ends and a new season begins to take shape, some of us are ready, some are not. Looking up at the darker fall clouds I am reminded of how sometimes changing seasons in our lives can be just as cold and dark as changing weather.
There was a comment left on yesterday’s post Imagine Your Change that spurred the energy for this post. It spoke about finding the joy in moving on and how sometimes that can be extremely difficult. There were several times in the last four years that I tried to or thought I had actually moved on from what had happened to me and that I was going to be able to put it behind me and be happy. I’m sure I even had a few posts that reflected those feelings at the time, but the reality is I may never actually totally put it behind me. My marriage was half of my life, and it included many pivotal and defining moments that has helped to make me who I am. I also know that in order to put some of that pain aside and heal from it there has to be forgiveness in your heart, not just on your lips.
Finding peace in your grief can be done but will actually be something that you have to practice, pray on, and really want. I have found that all the negative thoughts and moments of heavy sadness and grief were not very productive, but the nights where I started to look ahead and focus on positive changes in my life brought some comfort. So how do we forgive? That’s a question only you can answer. It will depend on how open your mind is and how ready you are to move forward and most important is to remember that forgiving doesn’t mean we forget, it means we simply acknowledge where we are in our life now and accept the challenge of this next life transition. Not every transition in our lives will be what we want, all we can do is deal with it the best way we know how.
So find something that gives you joy, for me it’s Butterflies of course and hold it close to your heart. When you find you are having a bad day or just need something to get you through a difficult moment cling to it, focus on it and let that person, object, scent, place, or insect guide you on your path for that day and your new tomorrow.
Can you welcome your season change and look ahead with hope? Please comment.
Kimberly
Courageous Butterfly
9/22/14
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I’m here!! It’s finally happened I have climbed an unimaginable hurdle and guess what? I survived! Though the bumps and bruises along the way have left some scars, I feel like I am ready to embrace my change. For so long I have wanted to make it all go away, there had to be a way I could go through it without actually living it.
Out of the Chrysalis 