Out of the Chrysalis

Celebrating and embracing the transformation within

Dating After Divorce…….I know its been a while!

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Young couple holding hands with sun-flare.

I almost forgot the feeling of the keys under my fingertips.  It has been too long since I posted on this site and to my readers I apologize. My respite was due to trying to live in the moment without looking in my rear view mirror and so far so good!

What I want to talk about in this post is kind of scary, and I’ll admit it has had my blood pressure up just a little bit.  Dating after divorce!!!  Let me start by saying I highly recommend it, however it is not as easy as I thought it would be.

We have our scars and it doesn’t matter how deep they are, they can and will at some point bring up memories or feelings of past relationships.  After my divorce I was told not to date for at least five years and I thought that idea was completely crazy! Now I kind of agree.  It’s been four years since my divorce and I’m truly very happy in this new relationship, but I”m also dealing with some divorce demons.

Wondering and hoping that  the rug will not be pulled out from under me as I am in this happy state, I decided the best way to overcome this is to kick it’s ass!  I wake up every day and only focus on the day, not my past, not my future but to live in the moments as they happen, and so far it is working, and when it’s not I text my sister!

Sometimes I find myself caught in a PTSD moment and it is all I can do to bring myself out of it, but I do.  I think that the fact I survived a divorce means I will always have some sort of PTSD event pop up, but I also know I will get through it when it happens.

My goals right now are to continue to kick the rear end of divorce; step up to the new relationship plate, and knock one out of the park!

It feels so good to be back!

Kimberly

Courageous Butterfly

6/30/15

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5 thoughts on “Dating After Divorce…….I know its been a while!

  1. Anyone else out there going through a similar situation? I welcome your comments!

  2. Good luck to you and keep in touch!

  3. I completely get this post! I am in a relationship now after FOUR years of divorce. What a new world this is. Thank you for sharing!

  4. Yes and yes. it is very exciting and completely terrifying at the same time

  5. I am so glad that you are in a happy place … and dating!
    I presume to the one person?
    So that is a whole new relationship. How exciting for you.

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