A lot of times when we go through change or a hard time in our lives we sometimes wonder “what if”? Just last week a face book friend posed the question “if you could go back and change something what would it be?” I honestly said nothing! Even though times have been hard recently and there are some things I have gone through that I wish I hadn’t, those things have made me who I am today. I’m a firm believer of everything happens for a reason but when you are in the thick of things those reasons are sometimes hard to see. My reasons are my kids I could not imagine life without them and I know that they are here because of the decisions I have made in my life and I would not change a thing. I know I’m not alone in feeling that way, most of us who have been through a life changing event can say exactly what the reason is, but deep down we will all wonder…what if?
My “what if'” thoughts lately have been: What if I had found out about things sooner? I wonder what life would have been like being single several years ago. Where would I be? What would I be? Who would I know? There is a lot that has happened over the past two weeks that I never imagined would’ve taken place in my life but it did and I have to face it. Sometimes “facing it” is the hard part. I’m seeing that now. I had been able to “face” the divorce, the move, the job, the new surroundings but for some reason “facing” the event of my ex making his new life official has been really hard on me.
I’ve been on a roller coaster of sorts lately with my emotions which is not like me. Usually I can find where I’m at and move past it, but for some reason this “event” has a hold on me. Our relationship ended with our divorce but I fee like I’m going through it all over again. I have to admit that sucks! Going through it once was enough but having these emotions again has forced me to really stop and think about things. Am I where I want to be? Am I what I want to be? Do I know who I want to know?
My answer is YES. I know I will continue to have moments of sadness and will most likely shed many more tears but even so I am right where I am supposed to be. I love my job, I love my relationship with my kids, I love where I am living, and I love the people who have entered my life because of what I went through. Would I have chosen the bad things to have happened in my life? No, but I would not go back and change any of it because without all of the negative I would not have the positive that I have today.
We will always wonder “what If” but what matters most is “what Is”