New page created!! From Caterpillar to Butterfly



The cover image

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Beech Creek Nature Preserve

I chose this photograph to represent the blog because of it’s imperfection as well as it’s beauty. As you will learn from my stories, the caterpillar’s struggle is real just as real as our own and scars are in inevitable. If you look closely at the tip of the butterflies right wing in this photo, you will notice a piece of it missing. Of course it’s hard to say when and how this happened, but that really doesn’t matter anyway. What matters is that the butterfly is still vibrant and able to fly. More importantly, that imperfection which we see is a reflection of a triumph through pain whether it occurred before, during or after total transformation.

You can call this the Calm After the Storm; Broken is Beautiful; From Ashes to Light; and so many other things…I see wonder! Amazement! Transformation! Inspiration! and God’s Beauty.

The grief of loss may have you broken, but those virtues are still inside. All it takes is a little elbow grease, hugs from friends, a few positive words of encouragement and you will emerge just as beautiful as you can be!

I hope you find healing in your own metamorphosis and enjoy being a member of the Out of The Chrysalis community.
~Kimberly

Caution…Work In Progress


work in progressLately, my time is spent with a tool in my hand, sometimes it’s a hammer, other’s it’s a paint brush, today it was a two-wheeled dolly to haul damaged, rotted out wood from a front walk to a pile in the back yard.  I have been working very hard to make my new home mine. Erasing memories that live within the walls, floors, and even the front walk.  In the midst of all of the pounding, scraping, sweeping, sawing, and washing I have realized that moving on from divorce or loss requires more construction than I thought.

However, I’ve also concluded that these memories I’m ferociously trying to remove, I’ve never actually seen!  They are images that I  believed have happened in this home, scenes that I have created in my mind.  So I’m working as hard as I can to make changes, that other than being cosmetic, I really won’t notice, or will I?  The mind can play many tricks on us and recently mine is doing some very fuzzy thinking.  My hope was that with each new renovation I would be able to feel some sort of release happening in my mind, heart and soul.  Sometimes I even envisioned the memories being lifted from the area I was working on and floating off into the horizon.

This journey has brought many difficult changes my way, and every once in a while I get a little reminder of something I forgot to change.  Like being called by your previous married name in the grocery store because you didn’t change your rewards card information.  Then  looking blankly into the eyes of the poor unaware cashier, seeing her puzzled look and just saying, yes that’s me.  Yes that’s me?

This little reminder was a kick in the behind for this one.  Why on earth did I slink down and hide in who I was in my marriage?  Instead I should have stood tall (as tall as you can when your height challenged) pushed my shoulders back and said ” I’m sorry I need to update my information, I have been made new”.   What was I missing?  I was missing just one drop of courage, strength, and confidence to announce to that cashier, and the world, who I am.  If that wasn’t enough I had run into an old mom from my kids preschool days and she so happily addressed me as Mrs. and asked  how we all were.  I stood there like a deer in the headlights trying to think of a quick escape.  Maybe I could just drop what was in my hands and run out of the store and she wont’ notice?  Maybe I could play it off like I didn’t recognize her?  No, instead I politely told her things have changed and she glanced down at my ring finger, said I”m sorry and it was nice to see me then walked away.

With both of these  occurrences  is when I discerned that I am currently still under construction.  I’m my eyes I am the new me, with my new-old last name, but to some I still may be the married woman who I was for so long.  This is something that I need to work on, I need to be able to find the courage to stand up for who I am now.  But I’m going to need help.  This is going to sound a little silly but between the old me and the new me I feel like I can really take shape as to who I am supposed to me.  There were some really good moments with the married me and lessons I have learned, if I can apply them to the new me, let them mold together, then quite possibly the two of us can do something spectacular.

one drop

This will require patience and perseverance, there will be days when I really don’t want the old me to put in her two cents, and the new me is going to have to keep a very open mind, but if we give it all we’ve got, it will only take one drop…..of courage….. belief….strength…and confidence to fully become who I am meant to be.   Let the construction begin!

Divorce and loss can take a lot out of us, but I truly belive  if we put the old with the new we can become complete again.

Have you been able to merge the old with the new?  Please share..

Kimberly

Courageous Butterfly

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