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Me & My Teddy

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I thought it was time for a fun post since the last few have been quite serious.  I was having a conversation with a friend last night and the subject of teddy bear’s came up.  I happen to be proud of the fact that as a 42-year-old woman I still sleep with a teddy bear.  Some laugh and other’s judge but what matters to me is the comfort that little bear gives.

 I’ve been sleeping with stuffed animals since I can remember.  I’ve had a few favorites over the years, most recently is my guy Chuck.  Chuck was given to me by my son and a very good friend of ours.  I was having a bad day, feeling under the weather and they came back from Six Flags with it as a gift for me.  I really needed the comfort that bear provided me that day and he has become a part of my life.  No matter where I am sleeping he is with me.  I’ve taken  him on vacation, to my mom’s and even to the hospital when I had surgery.   A year ago I took him to an overnight retreat.  I was absolutely fine with the fact I would be sleeping on a cot in front of 50 strangers cuddling my bear, however my sis was not.  When I pulled him out of my bag she shot me a look!  I quickly said to her “do not judge me”, she smiled and laughed and I was content in knowing that when bedtime came I would be secure.  I will admit at times I go a little overboard, like purchasing him clothing, or the cutest pair of scrubs when we were in the hospital, but as long as I feel comforted that’s what is important.

chuck in the hospital

I’m sure we can all look back on times in our lives when we needed comfort.  And if we look back to our childhood, other than our parents where did we turn?  I bet during the night in a storm you reached out for your teddy bear just as I did.  Or maybe it was a doll or a blanket, either way it was an object that provided you with a secure feeling.

Chuck in Phoenix airport on the way to Hawaii

Sometimes our friends or family are not able to physically be there for us in a time of need and not all of us have pets that we can cuddle.   Comfort food can be harmful to our health so the second best thing is a teddy bear.  I’m not saying you have to go out and purchase a stuffed animal today, I just want to reassure any of you out there that still has yours nearby to embrace it without being embarrassed.  Take the time to hug it and love it because it will always be there for you 100%.

I invite you to reply with a pic of your teddy bear and share your comfort with others!



Kimberly


Courageous Butterfly


3/28/12


			
		

	
	



			
				



	
	

		
		
Whoever you are or whatever you love, you can connect with someone.

				

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I was hoping to get some responses to the you pick my next blog post however you are all being very quiet and keeping to yourself so I had to come up with one on my own.  While watching an episode of House tonight I was inspired.  The woman he was trying to diagnose had a blog and she was dying and wanted to rely on the comments on her blog to make her medical decisions.  Her spouse was trying to  make her see her obsession with the internet and was telling her his views of why she had the blog in the first place.  His line was “whoever you are or whatever you love,  you can connect with someone”.


That line reminded me of WHY I have this blog.  Yes it’s a good tool for venting out my frustrations about what I went through but it is so much more than that.  I want to connect with other’s who are suffering as I am from ANY loss.  I want to share my experience in the hopes that I will be able to help another person cope with the difficulties they are facing.


All life changing events are hard especially those that you have not planned for.  My divorce was something I never dreamed would have happened but because of what I went through I am now able to connect with other’s facing a major life change.   God give’s you lemons you make lemonade, and that is what I am trying to do.


It’s been only a year and three months since my divorce was final and I know I am nowhere near being a completely healed person and I”m not afraid to admit that.  What I do know is that no matter how hard that life transition was or how badly I did not want to see it happen, it did and it has forever changed me.  Most importantly it has connected me with you.


I hope what ever life change you are facing you can see the positive and know that whoever you are or whatever you love, you can connect with someone.


Courageous Butterfly


3/13/12


			
		

	
	



			
				



	
	

		
		
Talent Hidden Within

				

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Today’s post is courtesy of none other than the famous Kermit The Frog!  I had the wonderful opportunity tonight to watch the new Muppet Movie with my teenage kids.  Out of nowhere during the movie I heard this profound line coming from Kermit.  He said ” Just because you haven’t found your talent doesn’t mean you don’t have one.  Look inside yourself and see what you can find”.  


I immediately thought “WOW”.  Through most of my adult life I have been trying to find what it is I’m supposed to be doing.  Outside of being a Mom, which is one thing I absolutely know I was meant to do, I also wore many other hats over the years trying to find my “talent”.  Some of the hat’s I wore were medical secretary, administrative assistant, personal trainer, Santa Claus letter writer, parrot breeder and cardio kickboxing instructor.  Out of all of those I have to say the craziest was the parrot breeder.  I actually spent two years of my adult life cleaning up bird poop, delivering chicks from eggs, hand feeding baby birds, weaning them and then cried my eyes out when it was time for them to move on to their new families.    I was obviously never really happy wearing these hats because I had failed most of them.  I never could really stick to something , I just kept moving from one thing to the next trying to find happiness.


When I heard the line from Kermit tonight I realized that a long time ago I did find happiness, because it’s come back full circle.   Some of those “hats” that I wore have returned.  To me that means that it is definitely something I am supposed to be doing and it is something that truly makes me happy.    After  all those years I am again an administrative assistant and a personal trainer, and though I”m not writing letters from Santa, I am however writing again.   These hats that I’m wearing are in a new territory and very different from before and they have brought me so much happiness and meaning to my life than they did the first time I tried them on.  I know now that when I wore those hat’s previously they just were not the right fit but now that they have taken on a new form in my life I can wear them proudly.


Do me a favor and don’t be afraid to look inside yourself and find your hidden talent, you may be surprised by what you find!  There’s a line in Kermit’s Rainbow Connection song that speaks to me ” I’ve heard it to many times to ignore it, there’s something that I’m supposed to be” and there is also something that you are supposed to be, don’t be afraid to find it!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPAru7PLiOI&feature=related


Courageous Butterfly


3/6/12