…..or are they merely the beginning of something new? We have all purchased a puzzle before, it comes in a box all sealed up never before seen. Sometimes the pieces are safely inside a plastic bag and other times they are just right inside the box. It’s exciting to begin to put the pieces together and start to see the image on the cover of the box appear before us. I don’t know about you, but I cannot put any puzzle together without first looking at the image so I know where the pieces go and what it is supposed to look like when I’m finished. Puzzle pieces are fun, colorful, and exciting; so why is that when we are falling apart it is called “falling to pieces”?
When I hear the word pieces I think of puzzles first, then pie!!! either of which are happy things. I never understood why the term “falling to pieces” is compared to falling apart. Pieces are things that are being put together, not to be left alone. So technically if we “fall to pieces” we are simply setting ourselves up for a new beginning. We are putting the plan into motion for someone to put our pieces back and make us whole again.
I’d like for a minute to imagine a world where when we are born a puzzle is created in the image of our future. On our 18th birthday that puzzle shows up gift wrapped on our doorstep, however there is no image attached to the box. It is up to us to know where to put each piece exactly where it goes. I suddenly feel frustrated and anxious. We don’t know where our pieces will fit, in fact most of us spend a lot of time trying to force pieces in where they don’t belong. I have done that on several occasions before and since my divorce.
We get so excited thinking…This is it, I just know it’s going to fit….then when we try to put the piece in that spot, it’s not quite right. No matter how much we bend, squeeze, or press that piece if it is not an exact fit, they will not go together. That’s when we get frustrated, because we thought for sure that piece went there. Is any of this sounding familiar yet if we put it into life’s scenarios?
There have been countless times since my divorce where I have tried to force pieces in where they didn’t fit, and it doesn’t work. Life cannot be like a puzzle, because it changes over and over again. When a puzzle is created it is made to stay the same, the pieces fit because they were cut that way, it was created specifically for one image. Life, was not. Life is meant to be a series of different landscapes. Sometimes our life puzzle will be pretty, other times it may rain and even storm.
There will always be those times when we do not want to put our puzzle together because we are afraid of what it is going to look like and those are the life landscapes that we try to change or hide from, thus altering the pieces. What we don’t realize is that we should not really try to alter those pieces, but instead put them in their place and experience what ever it is that we are meant to experience at that time in our lives. God created our puzzle, he knows where our pieces go and he may have thrown in a few confusing one’s to help us to grow.
I have a few pieces that I would like to toss out of my puzzle, but then what would happen to my life image? We are who we are because of what we have or are going through. Without those horrible pieces of my life puzzle, I would not be right where I am today, which is where I am supposed to be. If I had tossed those pieces and not lived those moments of my life, I have a feeling my puzzle would never begin to take shape.
So, when we are faced with loss, fear, sadness, and despair how do we continue to put our puzzles together? We simply live life. We take on each challenge along with any failure that comes with it and we embrace it. We grab that puzzle piece hold it high and scream “ONE DAY MY PIECES WILL FIT”.
Try not to fit pieces of your puzzle into your life if they truly do not belong there. Hold onto those pieces that fit right off the bat and enjoy putting your life puzzle together.
Have you been trying to force pieces to fit in your life? please share…
Kimberly
Courageous Butterfly
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