Feeling blue? Not sure how to get out of that “funky feeling”? I hear ya! No matter what may be going on in your life, big or small, it sometimes is very hard to get yourself up and out of feeling down. I have to share a quote with you that came from a very good friend of mine this week. I had been stating how I was feeling at the beginning of this week and my friend said “it’s time to pull yourself up by the bra-straps and let the transformed Kimberly back in”. Over the past couple of weeks the way I was feeling was allowing my old self, the defeated self to creep back into my life. I was becoming depressed and very unhappy. My friend knew not to sugar coat the words and tell me point-blank to get out of this mood and continue on the path to renewing who Kimberly is.
I explained that I needed to take a little time just to process the feelings I was having, but I also did need that reminder that if I stay in the “funk” for too long, it could move me backwards. It’s not easy to think about when we are dealing with emotions that are upsetting but it is so important that we do. I was reminded that I have become a stronger person and I cannot let these emotions take that away from me. Ignoring the emotions we are feeling will not work, it is important to move through them no matter what the situation is and the key is to know when enough is enough and put that emotion behind you. If you are dealing with a loss of a loved one, a marriage, or a relationship you will have many emotions to deal with and you never know when they will pop up.
I’ve been divorced for more than a year and I still have these emotions that pop up and I’m learning how to process them. The fact that I know I need to process them and move forward is what matters the most. When you find yourself struggling over an issue, emotion or fear remember to feel it, let it go and move forward. I made a promise to myself and I encourage you to do so as well. 
“Do NOT let what you have been through defeat you, for if we remain confident in ourselves we will continue to be lifted up”
Kimberly
Courageous Butterfly
4/4/12
Out of the Chrysalis 
Thank you so much for this topic. I have certainly been struggling terribly with trying to find my place in this new life that has been imposed on me. I’ve been so frustrated with myself for not pulling it together faster. Today makes it 1 month exactly since I lost the job I thought I would have until I retired. In the meantime, my brother took my car and stole my checkcard, which has devastated me even more. My entire life has been turned upside down in a matter of a month. I’m struggling to “pull myself up by the bra-straps and let the transformed Jen come in”.
Something that I think is important in the healing equation is figuring out exactly what we’re healing from. I find that a lot of times when we’re mourning the loss of something, we may not actually be mourning the loss of what we ACTUALLY had, but what we THOUGHT we had or what we thought MIGHT BE. If we look closely at the reality of the situation, though, we may see that rather than mourning the loss, maybe we should be thankful for it. I know I’m thankful to God for taking so much unhealthy negativity out of my life. I realize now I’m not mourning the loss of my job as much as I am just having a difficult time adjusting to this new life I have now. It’s unknown and scary because I don’t know what to expect, but exciting knowing that God is in control and I believe he’s preparing my life to be better than I ever could have imagined.
LikeLike
Jen, thank you for leaving your comment. What you said about instead of mourning the loss we should be thankful for it really makes sense for me. My life has changed so much after what I went through, even though there are many downsides to my situation I have gained so much that I would never have gained had I not gone through it. You have a lot to look forward to in your new journey and I know you will be open to all possibilities. We are all following the path we were meant to be on even if it’s a bumpy one. I”m glad we can be on our journey together! Love you!
LikeLike
Without these drastic changes that I’m going through now, I truly don’t think I could have ever had the peaceful, serene life I have always wanted but didn’t think was possible. I feel hopeful that I’m finally heading in that direction. We’ve both been down bumpy, painful paths. I truly, with all my heart, feel that these paths are taking us to the peace and true love in our lives that weren’t possible where we were before. You deserve the true love and compassion you weren’t getting before, Kim. You’re on a bumpy path to happiness and it will be well worth it in the end. I’m so glad we can travel this path and do our best to enjoy the ride together! Love you too!
LikeLike
It takes the rough roads to appreciate the smooth ones. It’s ok to get down – as long as you use those straps to pull yourself up again and come back even stronger
LikeLike
Thank you for the comment Rosemary and that is just what I had to do this week. Grab those straps and pull and I know that with each tug I will become a little stronger!
LikeLike