Frozen: It’s the beginning of March and we are still being gifted by mother nature with ice and snow.
Frozen: The Oscar nominated song Let It Go, in 2014, a hit for little girls everywhere.
Frozen: The Disney Movie which defines Love as: “Love,” the character states, “is putting someone else’s needs before your own.” The definition is not only key to the story’s surprising climax, but also biblically solid. For the Scriptures tell us, “Greater love has no one than this: than he lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13).
Frozen: Webster defines it as, frigid, very cold, obstructed by ice.
It’s amazing how one word can have so many different meanings. So why am I stuck on this very cold, sometimes debilitating word? Because in the last few years I have had many circumstances where I felt, or wanted to be frozen. There were times during my trial when something would happen and the result would cause me to feel trapped and out of control of my circumstances. In those moments I was literally frozen, in that I was not able to do anything to change the outcome. I was physically and emotionally frozen.
Lately, I feel like I am stuck, I”m sitting on a very large piece of ice in the middle of nowhere, an emotional glacier. It’s strange because for a while now I have not had any issues with releasing my feelings but for some reason I find myself wanting to hold things in again. We all know that holding in feelings is never a good idea and that came to pass for me last week. Now that I can see it though I am committed to working through whatever it is that I am holding on to. From the lips of a very dear woman “It’s OK to not be OK”.
The last few days I have been trying to figure out what it is that has me trapped on this current glacier. Other than the obvious, there is an anniversary (not mine) that does seem to be at the forefront of my mind. It’s something that I knew I would never be “OK” with, but something I thought I had moved past. Divorce is truly the death of a relationship and unfortunately for me, I am still in mourning.
I know I have made a lot of progress in my healing but then I have these surprises creep up on me and throw me right back onto that glacier where I have an emotional explosion! The hard part is not to feel like I’m right back at the beginning. I need to put all those other explosions behind me and just focus on the one that has me on this current block of ice. Also hard, is to let it all out; finding someone to confide in and tell all of this too. I have been through three counselors since my divorce; they keep leaving, maybe I need to look into that! (ha ha) Most importantly though is recognizing when you are feeling isolated on the glacier before it’s too late and you are piled up high one on top the other before the damn breaks.
In the words of Disney’s Frozen….LET IT GO! Let it all in and then let it all out. We have to remember that tears are healing and it’s OK. Keeping in mind also not to be angry with yourself when you get to these moments. My first reaction was how angry I was at because I am still holding on to some of these issues, but then I realized its because I haven’t let them go from my heart. They are still there because they still cause hurt, and I need to face them in order to release them.
I have been living in the biggest storm of my life, there may be nothing harder than this. It is going to take time, patience, understanding, love, faith, and hope to guide me towards being healed. I have no idea how long it will take, or if I ever will be completely over everything that I went through. For now I know that it’s OK for me not to be OK, and I need to let other’s around me know when I am feeling that way. It’s not healthy to be alone on that block of ice, the more people I let in and the more I talk about it, the quicker that ice will melt and I will be free of it. I have to admit when I first pictured myself sitting on a glacier and it was melting away, I felt panic! What if I”m not ready? What if it melts and I drown? Well, the people around, us, those helping us, will be our life jackets. They will make sure that we are safe to swim and they will lead us safely to the shore.
Do you feel trapped on your own emotional glacier? Respond in the comments.
Let It Go, Frozen
Dream Glacier, Tony Crisp
Let It Go, momofthreelivinginbfe
Seeing Emotions, Enchanted Heart