I’m going to begin this post by quoting song lyrics from the very popular movie Frozen. From the song titled Let it Go:
“The wind is howling like this swirling storm inside
Couldn’t keep it in, heaven knows I’ve tried
Don’t let them in, don’t let them see
Be the good girl you always have to be
Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know”
Only five lines but boy do they pack in meaning! If I were to reflect back on some of the worst times of my trial, I would see many days of tears, but more so holding them back. Most of us know as that song plays out, she let’s go and stops hiding who she really is. But is she really being true to herself and her emotions? If you saw the movie, then you know when this song happens, she is angry and secluded herself from family, friends and the town. What exactly did she let go of? I think she actually let go of the very things she secluded herself from, and in that respect, she has lost people who love her.
Grieving a loss can be so complex, and it is natural for us to want to be alone, and not let anyone see how we are being affected. Doing so, can result in much anxiety, stress, and may eventually lead to mental and physical breakdowns. So, what are we supposed to do with our tears…I say give them to God, and allow him to use as fuel for your healing.
God is the one who holds every tear you cry in his hands. We can “Let it go” as the song encourages, but first, we must give everything over to God and then let Him dispose of it.
All of the hurt, frustration, anger, and other countless emotions that you are feeling during your loss or even healing period, let God have it all. God’s hands will become a place of respite, which you can cry into. Every tear that falls is blessed, kissed and held ever so tightly in His hands.
I can share with you my own experience when one day I allowed myself to cry in God’s precious hands. I had made the decision to let my tears become my strength, and no longer allow them to bring me down. In prayer, I laid it all in His hands and it proved to be a very freeing experience. It won’t always be easy, some things we go through are so hard that it almost seems like the acknowledgment of them to God, is accepting the situation as something you are ok with. That does not have to be the case! In surrendering the circumstance, you are merely letting God know that you need his healing upon you and the issue. It can be very helpful for your emotional well being, to place your feelings into blessed hands.
So give yourself a cry fest! Let it all go! Allowing God’s hands to hold every tear for you, and replenish you with a loving grace that will ultimately result in a happy heart. If you have difficulty with the thought of this type of prayer, then go to a trusted friend or advisor, share your feelings, and ask them to hold your tears, while you walk in your path to healing.
I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences!
Psalm 107:19 “Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress”
Courageous Butterfly
2/17/19
Spring is upon us and that means caterpillars everywhere are on the verge of becoming a newer version of themselves. With much time spent in the chrysalis, letting go of the past and preparing for a great adventure. Over the past 7 years, I have been doing the same thing and life has led me to many wonderful adventures of late. Recently however, I had a “moment” that I would like to share with you! It came suddenly and completely took me by surprise!
What I think is important to pass along here, is do not shut yourself out! These “moments” will appear without warning and can be frightening to face head on. I faced mine by accident the following day and I am grateful for the experience and now the knowledge. When you get to this point in your journey, remember this as an important step in the healing process. Trust in God, and listen to what you have to say. Do not be afraid to be angry with yourself but also remember to be just as forgiving!
Last week during a conversation, it came up that the caterpillar does not know that a struggle is coming, or that it will be transformed into something more beautiful than it once was. Many of us do not know the storms that lie ahead or how we will be changed because of them. The difference between our struggle and that of the caterpillar, is the fact that we remember most of what we’ve gone through. Some say, the butterfly, once it emerges only has memory of its time just before entering the chrysalis. I can’t decide which is better, remembering every moment of the struggle, or just the very end.
Out of the Chrysalis 